I HATE YOU!!!

I HATE you!! Shjoe that is harsh that is the sms T sent me yesterday afternoon because I DARED to stay after work and have a beer with my colleagues (something I don’t do as a rule). It is my busiest time right now: with stock take this week and work is rough. I let him know I would be a little late, not even after dark late five thirty late. He was extremely rude to me on the phone and he slammed the phone down on me. Right I carried on drinking my beer, only to receive said SMS…………..I held my pose in front of my colleagues and finished my drink and left all smiles. But deep down it was hurting, earlier in the day I left work and picked up a pie, choc and a dvd for this child who was now giving me all my days. I decided that to yell and scream would serve no purpose (it’s a thing I am doing less and less of I’m pleased to say). I went home, made supper and sat quietly watching TV. He tried HARD to make up for it but never actually apologizing, you know the drill with kids he showed me his sketches he took the plates to the kitchen etc. But I remember doing the same thing as a child and never actually apologizing hoping my actions would prove it and it did work to an extent BUT it made it hard for me to ever say sorry when I was wrong because I had another way of doing it, I don’t want T to have that problem he must learn to apologize and mean it when he is wrong and to actually think about what he did that was wrong. Eventually he wrote me a letter to say sorry and said he had been selfish and rude and had wanted me all to himself and he didn’t mean what he had said and he loves me. We spoke about it and I was pleased that he came to the conclusions all by himself and knew exactly what he did wrong etc. I think a valuable lesson was learnt by both of us, he is getting big now and he must realize that his actions have consequences and I too must remember to be gentle and kind when teaching him these lessons. When I left for work in the morning he send me a second sms “I LOVE YOU” ………………….Boy am I glad I didn’t scream and shout and make a scene as this way was far better!!

The ROUND chair

The ‘round’ chair used to belong to my Grandmother, and then my uncle inherited it from her.

My uncle had two basset hounds and one of them and T used to compete for the ‘round’ chair & when he was very little they would curl up together on the ‘round’ chair and watch TV.

My uncle then gave the ‘round’ chair to T some years ago and it has been in our home ever since. My neighbor in Centurion used to love our ‘round’ chair and always sat in it when visiting.

My cat Thomas Heathcliffe loves the ‘round’ chair and he sometimes sleeps all night on it instead of in his basket or on our beds. He thinks the chair belongs to him.

My two sweet girls also think the ‘round’ chair is their private chair and they are often found curled up on it or sitting on it looking out of the front door as it is in the perfect position for doing so.

When my parents visit my father sits in the ‘round’ chair as he finds it comfortable to get in and out of.

All in all it is a rather grubby ‘round’ chair but it has so many memories and stories attached to it and as you can see from the pictures everyone is most comfortable in THEIR ‘round’ chair.

And the rightful owner Mister T, well he isn’t allowed to leave his school bag or anything on his ‘round’ chair INCASE somebody else wants a turn but he does get to sit in his chair at times as he has been doing for nearly ten years since he was a toddler!!

I have scrubbed it clean many times and oiled the wooden legs etc. But with all the traffic (the dogs jump onto the ‘round’ chair and then over the back of the couch, and use it as a step when going back the other way) and much use it doesn’t stay clean and fancy but of all the furniture in my home I think it is the most loved and valuable! Wouldn’t be home without THE ROUND CHAIR!!

Mister T made a sword

It is crafted out of wood, the etchings on the blade are plaster of Paris (mixed with warm water and a little wood glue for quick drying). He made the handle separately and sprayed the blade first with solid silver and then light touches of gold. The tassels were also made from scratch very clever indeed Mister T!!!

He wrote his last exam yesterday so he has been relaxing at home ALL day today and I am so jealous!!

Glad it's Friday it has been a rough week and a very busy one at work. Next week is stock take and being the Logistics Controller I have my work cut out for me next week! It is a small branch so most of the responsibility and SAP work falls on my shoulders and it is hectic!

It's only four more weeks and I'm on LEAVE yay!! Can't wait this has been a rough year altogether and I be needing a break now!!

Vision boards & future plans

I have a two-year plan:

T has two more years in junior school and I want to be in another place by then. So I have decided to put the job hunting on hold stay put and …………..wait for it………..S T U D Y…………….that will stimulate me, that will keep me focused on the positive and I will improve, change and grow and after all I should only be worried about myself and my child not try and change the rest.

Apart from wanting to study I am working on a vision board, I don’t know if I will ever share it with the world but it is a great tool to stay focused on what you really want from life, your goals for the future and to attract these things into your life. This quote is from the vision board site where you can create a virtual vision board:

Know what you want to do, hold the thought firmly, and do every day what should be done, and every sunset will see you that much nearer the goal.

Awesome powerful stuff innit???

Family Time

Last night we went to supper at one of my BF houses. She and I were at boarding school together a hundred years ago in this SMALL town and she has lived here most of her life. Her son is over for a visit from London, he went in February of this year and she misses him like crazy. We had a real "family" time with her mother and daughter and her boyfriend also there, A's mom is hilarious and had us in stitches all night long hope when I eventually get to 70 I am also so funny. She goes for shock value so she says outrageous things and we laughed until we couldn't anymore. T being 11 and at the stage of liking ALL things dodgy thought it was too good to be true to hear all this!!


It's official I am going to start job hunting, a daunting prospect as I have worked for the same company (though at different branches) for a long long time. I have learnt a lot and I have moved between departments which means I have a LOT of experience and have been in Management since I was 24. So now it's time to move on, it is sad really but I am so unhappy at this branch and it is the people not the job. They are very narrow minded here and afraid of change and afraid of somebody "upstaging" them or knowing more etc. Very petty I know but I have been here a year and a half and they are NOT going to change. So the future does not look bright here at all. I was hoping to tough it out until T finishes junior school BUT I don't know of that is possible??? Three of us transferred here from Pretoria and the other two cut and ran back in June already. The situation is eating away at me, killing my personality and self esteem and it is not a healthy one. Mostly I try to remain positive and I don't let it get to me but now and then it eats away like an illness and so now I have to face it head on and go for broke. Heaven help me!!!

When the POLICE call you about your child!!!

He he it was last week I was at work but in the stores at the time and didn't answer my cell. THEN I got a voice message saying "This is Captain so and so from the police" .....OMG WTF? "your son is locked out of the house, you will find him at the complex" ...................... OK Mother panic overload WHY are the POLICE at my home?? WHY is T locked out? WHY ARE THE POLICE INVOLVED? WHAT DID HE DO???...............I raced home which takes a total of three minutes being as this is a small town and all that.................there I find T and his mate sitting outside the front door playing with the dogs through the security gate. Dogs locked in kids locked out.......They had gone outside to play basket ball and locked the padlock on the gate without taking the keys. He then went to the payphone and called the police as he had no money and his phone was inside. It was a very intelligent thing to do and I am proud of him for thinking of it.

BUT - I got a helluve fright at the time. I am grateful to the police for calling me and for a child that can look after himself................whats next????

The local newspaper thought it was a great "good news" story and came to interview T and put his story in today along with a colour picture. HEY it helps that the senior reporter is one of my friends and this is the second time he has made the papers!! It p*sses some of the locals off that this happens but HEY I have friends in HIGH places what can I say???

ART & ARTISTS

It's been ages since I wrote anything. My son is very creative and I found him the most amazing art teacher to develop this talent. She is studying art and doing a degree and she too is very talented. The have such a good time together that his lessons sometimes go on for two to two and half hours WAY longer than the normal hour. I have started staying there and visiting with her parents while T does his work, what lovely people. They made us waffles with strawberries and cream last Saturday for lunch...........we are getting SPOILT like crazy!!

The dragon shelf above was his second project in art class. He cut up a inner tube from a car tyre to make the scales and nailed them on and dry brushed them with bronze. He collects dragons and he has put four of his metal age dragons on this shelf.

The capsized ship and sea monster was his FIRST oil painting on canvas and he has since made a frame for this painting in one of his classes which has made it even more amazing, it isn't easy to paint in oils and he had to prepare the canvas himself.

I am so proud of this child and his talent and his hard work, he works very very hard at his art (not like school) and he does something creative each and every day it is his passion and I am happy that I have found the right teacher to develop this!!

I will be posting more of his art soon.