Wednesday, February 10, 2010

Child in mourning.............

My child is devastated two of his closest friends (twin brothers) in his class at school were burnt to death in the orphanage fire Tuesday morning. He is so brave so grown up but so little, what a hard life lesson to learn when you have just turned 13. He has been friends with them since Grade 4 . My life lesson is this when your child is hurting like this you can't "fix" it. If they fall down and get hurt you can do something to let it heal, this you cannot fix, even though with my whole being I wish I could make it better I can't. It is very sore to hurt for your child and feel his pain and not be able to take it away. He has learnt a lot this week about grief and anger etc. The school was very proactive and they got a pastor to come and council the class and that he said made him feel better. He talks about J & J at times and at other times he doesn't want too. All in all he is doing well and he asks questions etc and he and his class mates chat a lot about it on mxit and at school, they are supporting one another which is great. I'm sorry T that this happened and I'm sorry for the twins and their little sister and all the other burn victims. My heart goes out to the orphans who survived the fire and to the twins mother who lost three children all at once. RIP J & J & N..............

4 comments:

Martha and Bailey said...

What a tragedy. It is impossible to protect our children against the awful sad things in life - makes you feel helpless.
So sorry for the family and all the friends and relatives.
xxx

momcat said...

Oh Lulu, That tragedy has affected me too. So sad that there was no way out for the little ones. I am so sorry that T and his classmates are facing this traumatic loss now. Just handle it instinctively and encourage him to talk about. It is good that the Pastor was able to talk to the kids as something like this can be lifechanging for all involved. My thoughts are with you.

lulu said...

thank you both for kind comments and support. I am taking T to councilling this afternoon for that reason and because his "father" keeps upsetting him and the doctor advised it. xxxx

angel said...

Oh Lulu, its so heartsore.
I am so pleased that T has been given help by the school- and I am pleased that you are getting him help as well (I did get your message, but very late).
Give him a big hug from me and D.